outloved.
Not outsmarted.
Not outperformed.
Not outargued.
Outloved.
Not a feeling. A way of behaving when nobody is counting.
Be the friend who called twice.
Remember the birthday they forgot.
Make the introduction without keeping score.
Stay five minutes longer.
Give credit before taking it.
Apologize first, when first doesn't matter.
Bring enough for one more person.
When the accounting is finished, be comfortable having given a little more than you got.
one more call · one more invitation · one more thank you · five more minutes
Don't tell us.
Love is not the absence of boundaries.
Sometimes the loving thing is leaving. Sometimes it is saying no. Sometimes it is refusing to help someone hurt you.
Outloving is not losing yourself. It is a surplus you can afford to give, not a debt you owe.
Someone loved you before you knew how much work that took.
Pass the surplus on.